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The Grooms: UNVEILED
- John Raymond Barker & Jared Robert Pike
- NYC, New York, United States
- John Raymond Barker and Jared Robert Pike met on July 16, 2007. They were engaged on Christmas Day 2008. They legally wed on July 16, 2010 in New Canaan, CT. Their official wedding ceremony was July 17, 2010 at the LGBT Community Center in NYC.
I think it's very sad in 2009 that two people who love each other have to fight a legal battle just to have a marriage.
ReplyDeleteI still think me and Deena should arrange a youtube gathering around your wedding haha!!
I hope his parents come around by then too, hopefully everything will go smoothly with the wedding!
Guys,
ReplyDeleteFirst of all - congratulations on finding the one you want to spend the rest of your respective life with - that is a feat in this day and age - no matter what color, religion, sexual orientation, age, country. I can appreciate your situation, your frustration. But let an old woman with 45 years of life experience give you a piece of her mind: the attitude you show life will get thrown back at you. I think you should stop feeling so sorry for yourselves, but realize the amazing opportunity you have to make a difference in this world. Instead of sitting there with droopy faces, you should count your blessings: each other, the (relatively free) world you live in, having the money to have a wedding at all - and smile all obstacles in the face. Many gay couples before you have suffered - and they have suffered so that you could get to this point in the first place. Now it is up to you to encourage other young gay couples to follow in your footsteps - not to scare them away with your end-of-the-world attitude. You will get married eventually, you will (I sincerely wish) be happy - and laugh when you look back at all this. At least you have something to tell your kids (and grandkids) later in life. And you will be able to be proud that you were part of the few that will make things easier in the long run for many to follow. I am not saying you should keep quiet - by all means: Make noise and tell your story! But be a bit more upbeat! Hold hands on the video, show your love for each other and your invincibility, your sense of humor and positivity about your conviction. That, and only that will open ears, doors and hearts. Nobody wants to listen to a whiner, there are too many of them out there already. Be different, be positive, be cheerful, enjoy the ride, the entire experience, because no matter what - it will be part of your life, so you might as well embrace it. You should by now be pros at embracing adversity! And it will show all those who are questioning your decision that there is nothing that will stop you from following your heart and conviction. After all: you are not sick, you are not poor, you do not have to live through an arranged marriage - your are ONLY gay. I know it sucks, but you are paving a way here. It's not fair - but life is not fair. You are pioneers here - so get with it! You will find that the lighter you take it - the lighter you make it! All the best, sincerely - Susanne